Sunday, May 25, 2014
Wednesday, May 14, 2014
Tuesday, May 13, 2014
MY stages of grief (at 1.5 years out):
2. Shock and Denial
3. Depression and Detachment
5. Dialogue and Bargaining/Acceptance
Right now I would consider myself in between the dialogue and bargaining and acceptance. I think I still lead a meaningful life, I just struggle with accepting her loss. It will never be acceptable, but I do need to start thinking about a new plan.... thinking about what's next if I do have another child.
Monday, April 28, 2014
|Photo Courtesy of Dog Vacay|
Saturday, April 26, 2014
Today I found out that a company close to my house was sponsoring a Glow4It Marathon tonight and they were using glow sticks to light their way shortly after sunset. I prepared myself, set myself up on the trail and handed out glow sticks! Here's the batch before giving them out. I will update the other pictures in the morning.
Friday, April 25, 2014
A little background: The last time we went to Olive Garden in Appleton we had terrible service. We waited for about a half hour for our server to bring us boxes and the check, then even longer to bring us back the cashed check. She asked my friend "do you need change?" I gave the manager feedback only because I feel we spent more time waiting then we did eating.
Today we went to Olive Garden in Appleton and our server was Curtis. This gentleman was one of the best servers I've had. He brought us our appetizers and food quickly and he had it timed perfectly. He was friendly and personable talking about his child turning two and being at the age that just wants to move and explore. He brought us refills on our drinks without being asked and answered every question we had with a smile.
It's servers like Curtis who make me want to give something to them like they have given something to me. Between my friend and I our bill came to $41.92. I had a $30.00 gift card so our bill only came to $11.92. My friend tipped the 20% (off the original bill - of course) and I decided that this gentleman deserved a little extra for the great service he put forth tonight. Thank you, Curtis, for restoring my faith in Olive Garden!
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Today I regret to say I was unable to fulfill a random act of kindness where I was able to give out a card. However, it's not always about giving out a card... it's about doing a random act of kindness that would make someone else feel better. I did hold the door open for several people as I was walking into the gas station this morning. It's not always the big things in life that make a difference. Sometimes a simple smile or a "good morning" or holding a door can go a long way.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
Today I helped a friend's child campaign for her school fundraiser. This year they are raising money for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) Walk to Cure Diabetes. I started by making the first donation of $15. We then made calls to family members and asked them if they would like to make a donation on behalf of her. I felt good helping out a child who wants to raise money for a good cause. She raised a total of $45 tonight and I'm very proud of her! Way to go Em!
To help this little girl reach her goal, please click here.
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
You normally wouldn't think one would be excited about buying grave decorations. For most, it's not. But when the grave site is all you have of your child, you get excited about the smallest of things. Yesterday was her 1.5 year anniversary so I went to decorate her grave with new lights and decorations for spring. Here is what it looks like during the daylight.
I decided I'd be a rebel and visit her tonight make sure all of her lights are working properly. Here's what it looks like at night:
I'm sure you're all wondering what happened to day 19-21. To be honest, I hit a bit of a depression with a side kick of a tooth ache and fell off the train for the past couple of days. I feel terrible about it. It hit me that yesterday (April 21) it has been a year and a half since I lost her. This breaks my heart to say it. There's days that it hurts so bad I don't know how I can go on. There are days that I feel great and hope she's smiling down on me. Today is another day in which I hope she's smiling down on me.
I went to the local Dairy Queen in downtown Neenah this evening. I've been trying to diet, but as you can see by my trip to DQ that, well, it's not going so well today. I felt something in the back of my head that was just telling me that I should pay for the order of the vehicle behind me. I paid for my order and asked the nice cashier if I could pay for the order behind me and if she would give her one of Ana's cards. She allowed me to and as I pulled forward and up to the street I watched as the lady behind me went to pay for her treat. She reached out to hand the cashier money and the cashier handed her Ana's card. Her look was a look that I will not forget. The shock on her face made my day. In the brief time I was stopped at the exit to the street, I saw her take the card and glance forward at my car. I just smiled. I hope that Ana touches her in a very kind and special way today.
|The car behind me at DQ Neenah, WI|
|This photo courtesy of Neenah Dairy Queen Facebook|
Friday, April 18, 2014
A very supporting friend of mine owns Dickey's Barbecue Pit Appleton, WI and she ever so kindly donated a four pack of Timber Rattler tickets for tonight's game at 6:35pm!! I have these tickets in my hands and I will be heading there this afternoon to give them to some lucky baseball fans! Pictures to come tonight!!
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Today I wanted to do something for someone that was close to me. Someone who maybe doesn't get the kindness or the thank you that they deserve day to day. So I decided that I wanted to do something for my mother. I bought her this beautiful flower... just because. Mom, if you're reading this... thank you for everything you do for me and our family. I love you!
P.S. Stay tuned for tomorrow's Random Act of Kindness sponsored by Dickey's Barbecue Pit - Appleton, WI!!!
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
I remember my mom reading I'll Love You Forever to my sister and I when we were younger. The story goes on to explain the stages of life from a newborn to a 2 year old to a 9 year old and so on... and it explains the love of a mother for her child. I never imagined what inspired this book until I lost Ana.
The story was written by Robert Munsch after he and his wife had two babies born dead. From his website:
"Love You Forever started as a song.
“I’ll love you forever,
I’ll like you for always,
as long as I’m living
my baby you’ll be.”
I made that up after my wife and I had two babies born dead. The song was my song to my dead babies. For a long time I had it in my head and I couldn't even sing it because every time I tried to sing it I cried. It was very strange having a song in my head that I couldn't sing."
I bought a total of 4 of these books. One for myself, one for the basket I already donated. Now I have two left. I would like to give these books to two individuals who read my blog. If you are reading this please leave a comment and tomorrow April 17th, 2014 at 9:30pm CST I will draw a winner through Random.org.
**UPDATED 4/17/14 9:45pm**
There were 7 comments on my blog, one was a deleted duplicate. So I numbered the comments 1-6. Using random.org, here are the winners from Day 16:
|Ashley G. - Who ever so kindly passed because she already has a copy.|
.......... and I actually had one more so the last one goes to......
If your name is above... to claim your copy of Love You Forever please message me on Facebook HERE.
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
There were two big factors that played part in my random acts of kindness project. One big factor of inspiration was from a fellow angel mom named Alyvia and her Kisses for Claudie campaign. During this time she started her project in the month of November. The second being a post on Facebook about paying it forward to the first five people that commented on your status. I've been patiently waiting for the right time to send these gifts to people. At first I struggled because I didn't know what to send them... or how I was going to send them. But I did it today. I'm not going to reveal what this item is because I know some of these people follow my blog. However, in the next week or two you should expect something in the mail. I hope each of you enjoy this special gift I chose for you Hugs and love :)
Monday, April 14, 2014
I was asking around for ideas of other things I can do for Random Acts of Kindness. I one of my friends is a volunteer at the Neenah Children's Hospital and said that they could use sleepers and not just for premies. I went out and bought two pairs - one girls and one neutral. I am dropping them off at the children's hospital this evening.